Let me begin by asking you a rather silly question, “Do you get angry?” I know the answer is a huge yes. I am yet to come across a person who has overcome anger. But don’t worry, there’s hope.
My personal experience with anger has been quite elaborate, to say the least. After going through a lot of losses on the personal and professional front, I realized that the only person who was paying the price for my anger was myself.
I can almost sense your feelings here, I know you want to say that it is difficult to control one’s anger when you are not at fault. So let me inform you, whenever you are angry you will always feel it is not your fault. This is often the trigger for everyone’s anger.
We tend to become righteous when we feel it is not our fault and putting up a fight becomes our prime responsibility. I can say this out of personal experience.
The turnaround happened when I began to notice that getting angry was becoming a habit. I was getting comfortable with losing my temper for the smallest of issues.
However, I did realize the tough way that when you get angry you harm yourself on a mental as well as physical level. It was my migraine and rising blood pressure levels that got me to think about control measures.
The first thing we do when we get angry is use of foul language. I understood that this was creating a dent in my vocabulary. On a deeper level, I understood that only a weak and helpless person is the one who gets angry.
Just imagine if you were in complete control of any given situation, would you have any reason to get angry? This was a huge realization because I never wanted to associate qualities of helplessness, desperation, and weakness with my character.
The remedy started with accepting that anger is a natural and normal emotion. But when it becomes intense or uncontrolled, it can lead to problems in relationships, at work, and in other areas of life.
If you struggle with managing your anger, you are not alone. The whole world is angry with someone about something. Half the people I know are angry with GOD!!!
Here are some strategies that I used. I believe these can help you manage your anger in various situations:
Anger at work
If you’re feeling angry at work, try taking a few deep breaths or going for a short walk to calm down. If you need to address the issue that’s causing your anger, try to do it in a calm and professional manner. It may also be helpful to set boundaries and communicate your needs to your co-workers or supervisor. It is common to hate your boss, I suggest you learn to concentrate on your work and ignore your boss.
Communication is key in managing anger in relationships. If you’re feeling angry with a loved one, try to express your feelings in a non-blaming way. It can also be helpful to listen to the other person’s perspective and try to find a compromise. If the situation becomes too heated, it may be helpful to take a break and come back to the conversation when you’re both feeling calmer.
Anger management with family
Family dynamics can be a source of anger for many people. If you’re feeling angry with a family member, try to express your feelings in a respectful way. It can also be helpful to set boundaries and communicate your needs. If the situation becomes too difficult to handle on your own, consider seeking the help of a therapist or mediator.
Overall, the key to managing anger in any situation is to identify the causes of your anger and find healthy ways to cope with and express it. This may include seeking the help of a mental health professional, finding healthy outlets for your emotions, and learning to communicate effectively. With practice and patience, you can learn to manage your anger and improve your relationships and overall well-being.
So, there you have it, folks. Anger doesn’t have to control your life. By using these strategies and taking control, you can improve your relationships, work-life, and overall well-being.